{"id":36144,"date":"2017-04-03T06:30:33","date_gmt":"2017-04-03T11:30:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/praytellblog.com\/?p=36144"},"modified":"2017-04-03T06:39:17","modified_gmt":"2017-04-03T11:39:17","slug":"keep-death-before-your-eyes-daily","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/praytellblog.com\/index.php\/2017\/04\/03\/keep-death-before-your-eyes-daily\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Keep Death Before Your Eyes Daily&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Mark Thamert, OSB, recently wrote this letter to his brother monks, family, and friends, and now shares it, slightly abbreviated, with <\/em>Pray Tell<em> readers.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>In chapter 4 of Saint Benedict\u2019s <em>Rule <\/em>for monasteries, our patron followed the spirit of other ancient monastics and did not try to suppress thoughts of death and last things. Benedict says simply, \u201cRemember to keep death before your eyes daily.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Early monks regarded such meditation on death as a way to live daily life more fully and in a detached way. Many stories tell of an open and uncomplicated attitude when it came to death.<\/p>\n<p>Here is a story from the desert fathers before the time of Benedict: \u201cNews spread that an elder father lay dying in the desert of Skete. The brothers came, stood around his deathbed, clothed him and began to cry. But he opened his eyes and laughed. And he laughed again, and then again. The surprised brothers asked him, \u2018Tell us, Abba, why do you laugh while we cry?\u2019 He spoke, \u2018I laughed at first because you fear death. Then I laughed because you are not ready. A third time I laughed because I am going from hard work to enter my rest \u2013 and you are crying about that!\u2019 He then closed his eyes and died.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Saint Benedict probably knew this story and others like it. While acknowledging natural fear and anxiety in the face of death, these ancient stories also make room for a surprisingly joyous and positive experience in the process death and dying.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/praytellblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Thamert.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-36148 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/praytellblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Thamert.jpg\" alt=\"Thamert\" width=\"136\" height=\"186\" \/><\/a>In April two and a half years ago I was having some discomfort eating breakfast a few days in a row. A week later I met my new oncologist who broke the news to me that I had cancer, explaining that about 40% of folks with stage two stomach cancer would still be alive five years after such diagnosis.<\/p>\n<p>A January 16 CT scan revealed that various cancers have spread quickly to several areas in my body. It\u2019s time to think in terms of weeks and days instead of months. It\u2019s time to let go of chemo and its harshness. It\u2019s time to say good-bye.<\/p>\n<p>For the past two months I have been in the care of a wonderful team of palliative caregivers. In helping me envisage the final chapter of my life, the head physician of the team said, \u201cTell those close to you that you love them. Make amends with folks as appropriate. Plan meaningful events and projects each week that give you something to look forward to.\u201d That has been life-giving advice.<\/p>\n<p>In all of this, I am also grateful. I believe that Benedict and the monks who lived in the centuries before him knew that keeping death in mind daily would paradoxically help monks and all fellow humans live richer lives now. Looking at this process in a simple, head-on way can release the hidden anxieties and help us to surrender to the mystery that Christ has promised us. It is a time to feel deep gratitude for the life we have been given, for the friends and family we love and who extend their love so freely.<\/p>\n<p>I am especially grateful for the community of monks and colleagues who surround me, the wonderful teaching career and prayer life that have given my life so much meaning through the years. If I occasionally have tears like the younger monks in my opening story, it is because I do feel a profound sadness in letting go of a life that has so much meaning here and now.<\/p>\n<p>I am sad about saying good-bye to the monks of this community, to my last group of students, to family members and close friends. But this sadness comes with a belief that there is certainly more life, much more life to come.<\/p>\n<p><em>Fr. Mark Thamert, OSB, joined Saint John&#8217;s Abbey in 1974 and taught in the German department of Saint John&#8217;s University. His translation from German of <\/em><span class=\"bTitle\">The Rule of Benedict: <\/span>An Invitation to the Christian Life<em> by Georg Holzherr, OSB, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.litpress.org\/Products\/CS256E\/The-Rule-of-Benedict\" target=\"_blank\">was recently issued by Liturgical Press<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s time to let go of chemo and its harshness. 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